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OK, so I’ll bite and be the first . . .
From what I’ve seen so far I really can’t see why this is important at this time. Then again I don’t see blocked messages or maybe my confrontation of Ms. Malonis is somehow offensive – she only seems to be interested in helping deal with being raped by a failed system anyway, not in confronting it. It wouldn’t matter her gender/ethnicity/otherwise – family law is corrupt and I will always confront it in any venue where I have a voice – a man certainly doesn’t have one in a kangaroo family court setting.
For women to speak to men’s issues with any credibility at all these types of issues MUST be addressed (gender has already dealt you one strike and in the case of Ms. Malonis she earns a second for being a family law practitioner). Playing nice no longer works – get used to it gals.
And it is not that the psychiatric profession doesn’t have it’s own skeletons to be skewered, they do. That may present itself at another time.
It could also be that you do not approve of telling men about the reality vs. the female perceived ideological, but they need to hear how the system currently operates. They are at a severe disadvantage and most will never realize it until they are being mauled by Leviathan. They don’t need platitudes.
So, if I am your offender – I don’t apologize. It is time women faced up to the reality they have created. And if your skin is too thin for that . . .
Hi 3DShooter,
As the saying goes, “It’s not all about you.” A comments policy is standard fare on many websites and was recommended as a best practice by the individual who helped build the site—a man and an MRA.
I see the reality of the situation, which is why I’m trying to bring it to light here. I’m grateful to have a legal professional who can offer guidance to those who are currently being mauled by the Leviathan you mention. Does it solve the underlying problem of the corrupt family law system? Sadly, it does not. No one individual can solve that problem on their own. It will take attorneys, judges, politicians and individual citizens to educate and demand change.
Regarding Shrink4Men current and future contributors, I don’t think it serves the community who come here seeking support and information to antagonize and bait the individuals who are providing that information and support. If individuals cross that line in the future, well, read the comments policy…
“It’s not all about you.” – The last time I heard that it was from my ex. Nuff said . . .
If you see my comments as antagonizing, perhaps you need to broaden your perspectives.
Yes, it helps men to deal with the ‘today’. In the long run that is treating the symptom and not the disease. If you cannot see that, then I have to question your motives . . .
I have to laugh… the last time I saw “Nuff said,” it was from my ex.
The last time I saw, “It’s not all about you,” it was a reality check from my divorce attorney.
And having motives questioned with regard to improving our own mental health? I think every reader on this site knows where _that_ is coming from.
Welcome to the audience.
Dr. T
I fully support your comments policy – particularly in light of some of those comments that were going on a few months ago when that gaggle of women started slamming the site with negative and out-right nasty comments. Mind you I don’t see a policy stopping the crazies – but it gives you something to point to when you hit the delete and ban button.
3dshooter – it isn’t about you
This is a good move Dr T, well supported here.
I must also add that this (policy) is long overdue. I guess though, in this case, like we say in project management cycles, “first things had to be first” in this regard. I also do believe that this was not all about you 3D, afterall if someone was to count/weigh the general emotions that runs through this site then everyone would understand – by its nature, this site is emotional and a lot more phenomenal (Dr T may give a more psychological-sounding perspective here).
In my view, extreme emotions cannot be entirely eliminated on this site since the hurt runs amok with many victims here – we’ve all been hurt in the extreme (by both perpetrators and worse still, by the “system”). And I am glad that the policy is not “heavy handed” and does encourage the flow of emotions (but not to a point that lashes out, unfairly, at positive contributors – even the “real” perpetrators).
I personally dont see why we mustn’t all welcome this policy.
Like I said before, If we make it our mission to attack contributors on this site (and even perpetrators), then we loose the whole point. In fact we become on par with the real predators – which we cannot afford. The one thing I’ve come to appreciate on this site is the level of intellect and sobriety that you find here – and Dr T must really be commended, she’s been able to assemble a “class” site and seemingly unintentionally, lol. We must therefor keep this “decency of class” so that our rightful cause is respected elsewhere, even by the “system”.
Lets keep the emotions coming, as long as they help the next person and also motivates those that contribute here – whether we like their professions or not – like DR T says, “Regarding Shrink4Men current and future contributors, I don’t think it serves the community who come here seeking support and information to antagonize and bait the individuals who are providing that information and support”
I hope Ms Malonis is aware and does appreciate the overwhelming percentage of men (and women) here who’ve shown their appreciation for being with us – btw, we still need more posts from her – (if she hasn’t realise it) Now, she is “one of us” btw.