Shrink4Men News: Dr Tara J. Palmatier to Appear on A Voice for Men Radio
For anyone who’s interested, I’ll be a guest on Paul Elam‘s A Voice for Men Radio program on BlogTalkRadio next Tuesday, March 22, 2011 at 9pm EST. It will be the fourth show since the program’s debut on March 1st.
AVFM Radio already has a strong growing following and, much like Mr Elam’s website, www.AVoiceforMen.com, it’s helping to expose the injustices perpetrated against men and their children by Divorce and Family Courts as well as the epidemic of false abuse and false rape allegations.
We’ll be taking callers, so if you have questions or a story you’d like to share, please call or Skype in on show night. I’m a little nervous about being on air live, but hopefully I won’t make a complete fool of myself. I’d be very grateful for any friendly Shrink4Men folks (this includes you, too, ladies) who can find the time to call in and say, “hi.”
I’ll Tweet and post a reminder on Facebook next Tuesday to remind those of you who follow Shrink4Men via these avenues. If you’re unavailable on the 22nd, I’ll post and embed the show here on Shrink4Men the following day.
If you have specific questions for me, please post them in the comments section here. If we have time, I’ll try to respond to them during the program. Hope to “see” you there!
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Good luck and don’t worry too much. Paul is an excellent host and will treat you with respect. I am sure he recognizes the dedication you have made to better understanding the current mess of men-woman relationships.
There are many, many men who need to recognize what is essentially a raw deal for them in modern relationships and that their notions of male honor, chivalry can be used by some women to walk over them again and again. I hope you discuss how a man can be firm and maintain his resolve against these types of shaming tactics.
The woman I am involved with (on an off-and-on basis) is fully aware of my involvement in the MRM, and my knowledge of no-fault divorce, marriage 2.0, as well as the various concepts covered in your website. She tries to subtly undermine this knowledge, without offering any alternative herself, thinking that the existing bluepill definition of maleness is appropriate.
Trying to explain to her that marriage is like the dud hand grenade analogy (sticking hand in box of live grenades hoping to pull out the dud) and which requires I protect my interests just doesn’t get through to her. I have also explained to her what “s#@t tests” are and that I am not interested in playing them, and this keeps her claws sheathed, but in essence, we do not have a relationship built on mutual respect.
Oh puleeze…you’re going to do fine. That’s awesome and congrats! Defiantly be tuning in.
Just remember, EVERYBODY looks 10lbs heavier on radio….
Very funny!
Dr. T, if you communicate even half as well verbally as you do on this blog, you’ll do just fine. I probably won’t be able to catch it live, so will there be a podcast/archive download we can access?
sure, you can go to avoiceformen.com and click on the logo at the top of the screen which takes you to another screen. There is where all the past episodes are listed, and you can select the one to play live streaming, or download to your computer.
I also believe that the podcasts are also uploaded to youtube a few days after airing.
Got it. Thanks!
Best tip I got from a media course for when talking on radio: don’t be afraid to use facial and hand gestures like normal, because voices sound different when you are smiling and frowning, and you want your feelings to come across in your voice.
I love doing radio. Talk back is MUCH less scary when you have some advanced warning of the questions though!
Thanks, KH. The only way I can NOT gesticulate is if I’m in restraints—and even then, I’m pretty sure I’d be flopping around.
Questions for Dr. Tara to answer on the show:
1) What subject did you choose for your dissertation?
2) Did you notice any misandry (overt or covert) within your discipline from other students or professors while you were in school?
3) How are you perceived by your colleagues in your opinion, especially in regard to taking up men’s rights and issues?
4) Was there one incident or person that made you choose to become a “shrink for men”? If so, what was it?
5) What is it that you ultimately hope to achieve in your work with your own website and with your involvement with A Voice For Men?
Of course we probably won’t have time on AVfM Radio, but being a fan of James Lipton, Bernard Pivot, and the Proust Questionnaire:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Inside_the_Actors_Studio
Hearing your answers to James Lipton’s 10 questions would be interesting.
Good questions, Tom. I’m sorry we didn’t get to any of them. I was surprised by the number of people who called in and that we didn’t have enough time to get to.
Let Me answer your q’s now:
1) Ce ci n’est pas une these: An applied psychoanalysis of Rene Magritte. It focuses on early childhood bereavement and creative outcomes.
2) Yup. Many classes included male bashing.
3) I don’t interact with many colleagues as I’m in private practice. Occasionally, I receive shaming emails from other practitioners about how I should have more sympathy for personality disordered women who abuse others because they’re in pain.
4) A friend I helped through the end of an abusive relationship encouraged me to start writing this stuff down, so I did.
5) I’d like to raise public awareness on this topic and provide men with the same kinds of resources our society gives to women in similar situations. I’d also like to be able to earn a living from doing the work about which I’m passionate. Unlike the field of psychology has been preaching since Managed Care screwed them over, I don’t believe helping others should require one to take a vow of poverty. Gotta love it. The chair of my doc program and other profs used to tell trainees how Psychology is a “calling” because we would only be able to make a meager living from it. Mind you, they said this with straight faces while charging us over $25,000/year tuition and driving to their western Massachusetts homes in their BMWs, Saabs and Mercedes.
Here’s a question that just came to me:
In your experience, are men who were abused as children/teenagers/young adults by their mothers (who had or exhibited traits of Cluster B personality disorders) typically more susceptible to abuse from Cluster B girlfriends/wives, or less susceptible? Regardless of which one it is, please explain the reasons and dynamics for why that is the case.
I think so. They’ve been primed for predators, so to speak.
lovekraft has an interesting story that is probably not rare. Women who are much younger than I am seem to have an odd idea of independence. They want to be free to do exactly as they like but also want me to be there to pick them up if they fall.
I’d like to hear about your experience working at a women’s shelter and with feminist colleagues.
I can’t wait, it’s going to be a great show. Thanks so much Dr. T.
Good luck! I agree you’ll do fine. Can’t wait to hear. ^_^