Dr. Drew Pinsky Says Kim Kardashian Committed Domestic Violence Against Kris Humphries
Full disclosure. I am not a fan of Kim Kardashian or any of the other Kardashians. I have never watched an episode of Keeping Up with the Kardashians. I will never watch an episode of Keeping Up with the Kardashians or any spin-offs in the Kardashian “oeuvre.”
I have zero interest in celubutantes who ride on their rich father’s and/or family’s coattails and become “famous for being famous.” They’re much ado about nothing if you ask me.
Kim Kardashian and her ilk call to mind what Katharine Hepburn said about Sharon Stone when she shot to fame after Basic Instinct became a hit:
It’s a new low for actresses when you have to wonder what’s between her ears instead of her legs.
So why am I writing about Kim Kardashian?
On a recent episode of Dr. Drew Pinsky’s show, Dr. Drew aired a clip from the Kardashian sisters’ reality series, Kourtney & Kim Take New York, in which Kim Kardashian takes a swing at her recently estranged husband, Kris Humphries of the New Jersey Nets.
Dr. Drew states, in no uncertain terms, that what takes place in the video below is female perpetrated domestic violence:
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Dr. Drew emphatically says at 0:31, “What you are seeing there is domestic violence.” Apparently, this was a matter of some debate amongst Dr. Drew’s producers and production staff who argued that Kim Kardashian throwing a punch at Kris Humphries was just “play.”
Would it have been considered just “play” or a “joke” if Humphries had taken a swing at Kardashian? Of course not.
I am sick and tired of how some women and men continue to condone violence perpetrated by women. Violence is violence. It is not “funny” or “cute” or “play” when a women does it. If men are expected to take oaths to never perpetrate violence against women (never mind the fact that most men don’t commit violence against women with or without taking an oath), then women need to hold themselves to the same standard.
Dr. Drew believes the video of Kim Kardashian hitting Kris Humphries is a big deal. I agree. Especially since Kardashian’s target audience are impressionable tweens, teens and young women. Hitting your husband or boyfriend is not play; it is violence.
At 1:37, Dr. Drew says the following about domestic violence:
Size and gender doesn’t matter.
Hallelujah! Hallelujah! Hal-lay-hay-loo-hoo-yah!
This was a much needed factual and emotionally corrective experience after watching the Dr. Phil episode in which Dr. Phil McGraw claims that men can never be abused by women because men are bigger and stronger. This is the same episode in which Dr. Phil claims that when a man is abusive, it’s domestic violence, and that when a woman is violent and abusive, it’s a “relationship issue.”
And then, at 2:12, Dr. Drew loses me.
He states that it isn’t okay when Humphries grabs Kardashian’s arm to stop her incoming blows. That is self-defense, not domestic violence. Everyone, men and women, have the right to defend themselves from being assaulted no matter the gender of the assailant. Humphries did not hurt Kardashian. He did not appear to use unreasonable force. He was fending off her attack. Self-defense.
Nevertheless, Dr. Drew’s commentary seems to be a huge step forward. A mainstream television personality/psychiatrist and his sidekick female psychologist both publicly stated that Kim Kardashian throwing a punch at her husband, Kris Humphries, is domestic violence. Perhaps it’s not much in the big scheme of things, but it’s a start and I’ll take it.
Here’s the altercation frame by frame:
Who would have thought Amber Portwood of Teen Mom and Kim Kardashian had something in common besides being “reality stars?”
What do you think? Do you think this is an instance of domestic violence?
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At about 2:12 when Dr. Drew says ‘its not ok for him to grab her like that’ his tone suggests (and his voice clearly conveys a distinct tonal quality as he makes this particular remark that is differnt from his other remarks) a touch of sarcasm highlighting the double standard that it would be ok for her to grab him like that. Or, maybe his emphasis was on the ‘like that’ part — where, for a moment, it appeared the man was starting a move associated with twisting her arm in a manner that would be damaging to her shoulder…though that move never really occurred (he was well-positioned to, if he wanted & knew what he was doing, to dislocate or really tear up her shoulder in a split second).
Anything with any reality TV personality/ies must be taken with the proverbial “grain of salt” — it sure looks real here & makes a good example….but such people in such circumstances do a lot specifically for the camera.
I read that Kris Humphries is suing KK for $10mil. Of course that was on one of those tabloid rags, but it would be hilarious if he was, and warranted.
“He states that it isn’t okay when Humphries grabs Kardashian’s arm to stop her incoming blows.”
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He’s right, per a talk I had with a lawyer anyway, who said that no matter what the combative female does, the only right response for a male is to get away. He had a client that had his wife come at him with a knife and he disarmed her by grabbing her wrist and twisting her arm behind her back. He’s the one that went to jail for assault.
that’s just pretty ain’t it? nope, the predatory females are not delusional. they can get away with it, they know it, and they are taking full advantage of their position of power, which is veiled by their status as nurturers, mothers, and victims.
There should be criminal charges against Kim for this abuse. The fact that it is over for her and her ex is not a good reason for her to avoid charges. If the police do not arrest her and press charges she will leave other victims behind as she will have no motive to control herself. Kudos for her STBEX for showing restraint by simply restraining her from assaulting him rather than fighting back.
I was just watching tv and saw a promo ad for tomorrows Dr. Phil show. It’s featuring a man whose gf beats him. Has he ever done a show like this before can anyone remember? Perhaps he doesn’t want to be left behind as his competitor Dr Drew sees that men can be victims too. It should be interesting. I’m sure we’ll see lot’s of misdirection, shaming, blaming and him saying lot’s of things he would never say to a female victim. Should be interesting…. very very interesting.
My brother’s crazy bitch wife often hits, kicks him and hurls verbal assaults. Recently, she threw a cup of hot coffee in his face. He removed himself from the house. She followed him and proceeded to throw pot plants at him. He continued to get into his car to go to work. She then unlatched the side gate so that it swung open as he was driving out of the driveway causing damage to the entire side of the car.(Not the first time either – other times she has also smashed the windscreen. And then she collapsed in a very theatrical way, as if she had been bashed. My brother, who was by this stage quite angry, got out of the car and hit her as she lay doubled over on veranda railing. He tells me that he hit her out of extreme frustration – he couldn’t process the scene that had unfolded. She had perpetrated all the violence and then play acted the victim by collapsing! She then announced to the world that he had hit her. He has since left her. She, however, has not left him alone – texting, calling etc etc. She “loves him and needs him”. He is falling for this crap and is almost on the verge of returning to her. Mind you, the incident I related is not an isolated one. He is totally abused – verbally, physically and emotionally (oh, and financially, by the way). He left her about 2 months ago. I am afraid that, if he returns, she will provoke him and, next time, he hits back he may end up in jail. Can anyone advise me what to say or do to help him?
In the very least you could direct him here. There’s so many useful articles on S4M that I’m sure he can relate to most of them. Pls just be relentless. I myself allowed myself to be hoovered by my crazy ex not once but twice. If I had a sibling that knew the pain I was going through and could have directed me to this site I would have wanted them to show me the way. As well maybe you could just let him know that there’s nothing to be embarrassed about. That female on male emotional, verbal and physical abuse is not a small piece of the domestic violence pie. The best article I think you could direct him to is the recent one by Paul Elam- how to slap your way to slavery. Especially if she seems the type to provoke. Good luck.
@justin_case: Thank you very much. I have directed him here (but he says he finds this site difficult to navigate)and have sent him many articles I have found on the internet. I have had to be very firm about what I will and won’t tolerate from now on if he returns to her. I have made it clear that I will not have anything more to do with her. No more playing happy families. We have always tolerated her and her entitled, self-centred behaviour, her alcoholism and her behaviour disordered children. I believe we have acted as enablers. This will stop. My brother’s daughter will not accept the CB any longer and neither will my mother or any other member of the family. My brother will, in effect, be on his own. He will very welcome to visit us by himself, but not with the psycho. He says he is “surprised” by this reaction. Why? Did he think we would simply pretend nothing happened? What has happened to him?
Yeah… he’s got it bad. It sounds like you do have a good grasp on what you should do. You really do have to treat it like a serious harmful addiction- treat it exactly as if he is returning to a heroin addiction. I my opinion he’s “surprised” and would rather everyone pretend nothing happened because then he can go back to living in denial. He can deny that he’s fallen in love with an abusive monster and not the angel he thought he had fallen for. He can deny that he is an abuse victim. Don’t let him. He’s been completely brain washed by the crazy making behaviours that these abusive cluster b types master and impose on their victims (spouses). He needs time away from her to come back to earth. This is vital. In my experience it took awhile to adjust to the fact that I was weak enough or had self esteem and respect so low that I allowed someone to abuse me. He has to go through the healing process a bit to get some perspective. If he’s open to it ask him to go NC- non contact with her and see if he feels better after a couple weeks or a month. This of course will either make her snap immediately into best gf/wife ever mode or max out her abusive behaviours. The forum is a great place to pose more questions if you like. There’s a lot of good helpful people here.
http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2011-10-02/news/ct-met-suzi-schmidt-profile-20111002_1_robert-schmidt-report-domestic-abuse-outsider
http://www.suntimes.com/news/metro/7926262-418/911-tapes-shed-light-on-domestic-squabbles-involving-state-sen-suzi-schmidt.html
You all may have heard of this or not. IL State senator Suzi Schmidt domesticating with her husband…again. The sun-times link has the dispatch audio.
County Board President for 10 years so the prior squabbles never got addressed properly as the previous Sheriff was bent.
Suzi rammed hubby’s car, while he was in it with intent to harm him. No charges.
Shocking.
I hate the Kardashians and what they represent in our society. I won’t even get started. I loved Katherine Hepburn, and adored her even more for that quote.