Ending a Relationship with an Abusive Parent, Child or Sibling, Part One
In our culture, family is sacred, well, maybe not as sacred as it used to be, but it’s still a cultural and psychological institution. As such, there are certain taboos attached to it. For example, denigrating motherhood is taboo – fatherhood, not so much. Physical incest between family members is taboo. Emotional incest should be [...]
Obsessing Over an Abusive Ex: Thoughts on Being Stuck
Are you still obsessing about a crazy, abusive ex-girlfriend or ex-wife? Do you still compare the “chemistry” you had with her to every subsequent woman you’ve encountered and find them lacking? Especially women who appear to be kind, loving and stable? Do you torture yourself with “what if’” and “if only” thinking? Do you hold [...]
The Next Guy: Did your Ex-Girlfriend or Ex-Wife Downgrade?
Grieving the loss of a love relationship can be a painful experience. Grieving and letting go of an abusive relationship and an abusive wife or girlfriend is frequently a far more painful and difficult experience. There are several reasons for this. At the end of an otherwise healthy relationship between two reasonable, rational adults, the [...]
Music Monday: “You Never Phone” a Song about a Troubled Father-Daughter Relationship
It’s Music Monday again. Apologies for the dearth of material, but I have an article in the works for this week. This week’s song, You Never Phone, You Never Write, is by another Wainwright, Loudon Wainwright, III, father of Rufus and Martha, et al. Father and daughter admit to having had a rocky and troubled [...]
Music Monday (on Tuesday): You’re Breaking My Heart -Working Out the Anger at the End of a Bad Relationship
It’s Music Monday on Shrink4Men, albeit, it’s Tuesday (busy, busy day yesterday!) You’re Breaking My Heart is by Harry Nilsson, another amazing singer-songwriter, from the Son of Schmilsson album. According to the documentary, Who is Harry Nilsson and Why is Everybody Talkin’ About Him? (available for streaming on Netflix), Nilsson wrote this song when he [...]





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