Unhealthy Relationships

Obsessing Over an Abusive Ex: Thoughts on Being Stuck

Written by Dr Tara J. Palmatier on April 30, 2013 - 87 Comments
Categories: Abuse, Borderline Personality Disorder, Healing, Healthy Relationships, Personality Disorders, Relationships, Unhealthy Relationships

Are you still obsessing about a crazy, abusive ex-girlfriend or ex-wife? Do you still compare the “chemistry” you had with her to every subsequent woman you’ve encountered and find them lacking? Especially women who appear to be kind, loving and stable? Do you torture yourself with “what if’” and “if only” thinking? Do you hold [...]

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The Next Guy: Did your Ex-Girlfriend or Ex-Wife Downgrade?

Written by Dr Tara J. Palmatier on February 6, 2013 - 65 Comments
Categories: Abuse, Accountability, Antisocial Personality Disorder, Blame, Borderline Personality Disorder, Dating, Healing, Histrionic Personality Disorder, Marriage, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Parental Alienation, Personality Disorders, Professional Victims, Relationships, Unhealthy Relationships

Grieving the loss of a love relationship can be a painful experience. Grieving and letting go of an abusive relationship and an abusive wife or girlfriend is frequently a far more painful and difficult experience. There are several reasons for this. At the end of an otherwise healthy relationship between two reasonable, rational adults, the [...]

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Music Mondays: Jericho a Song about One Last Tries and the Improbability of Change

Written by Dr Tara J. Palmatier on August 6, 2012 - 12 Comments
Categories: Abuse, Healing, Music, Personality Disorders, Relationships, Unhealthy Relationships

Happy Music Monday, Everyone! I really enjoyed seeing (and then listening to the songs I could track down on YouTube) that many of you posted last week. Thank you! A quick, off-topic announcement regarding Man Woman Truth Radio — Paul Elam and I will be back next Monday, August 13, 2012 and will post an [...]

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Oops! A BPD Did It Again! Another Post-Break Up Pregnancy to Trap a Man

Written by Dr Tara J. Palmatier on July 31, 2012 - 80 Comments
Categories: Abuse, Borderline Personality Disorder, Custody, Dating, Legal, Marriage, Parenting, Personality Disorders, Psychological Abuse, Relationship Advice, Relationships, reproductive coercion, Sexual Abuse, Unhealthy Relationships

Calling all Shrink4Men community members! There is a young man in need of an intervention. Earlier this morning, a 24-year old man, “Eric,” left the following comment on the original Shrink4Men blog article, What Can I Do to Protect My Unborn Child from my BPD/NPD Ex-Girlfriend: I find myself in almost the exact same circumstances [...]

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Music Mondays: Rearview Mirror, a Song about Leaving an Abusive Partner in the Past

Written by Dr Tara J. Palmatier on July 30, 2012 - 22 Comments
Categories: Healing, Music, Relationships, Unhealthy Relationships

On the Shrink4Men Forum, we have a music board where members post videos and lyrics of songs they identify with as a result of being in a relationship with Crazy or having been in a relationship with Crazy. For many individuals on the forum, music has been both a means to cope and heal. Starting [...]

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