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Obsessing Over an Abusive Ex: Thoughts on Being Stuck

Written by Dr Tara J. Palmatier on April 30, 2013 - 89 Comments
Categories: Abuse, Borderline Personality Disorder, Healing, Healthy Relationships, Personality Disorders, Relationships, Unhealthy Relationships

Are you still obsessing about a crazy, abusive ex-girlfriend or ex-wife? Do you still compare the “chemistry” you had with her to every subsequent woman you’ve encountered and find them lacking? Especially women who appear to be kind, loving and stable? Do you torture yourself with “what if’” and “if only” thinking? Do you hold [...]

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MWT Radio: Interview with Lt. Col. Joel Kirk

Tonight, Monday, September 17, 2012 at 8:00 PM CST, a special edition of Man, Woman Truth Radio will air on BlogTalkRadio. Joining co-hosts Dr. Tara Palmatier and Paul Elam will be US Air Force Lt. Col. Joel Kirk currently of Harrison County, West Virginia. Many listeners will already be familiar with Kirk’s bizarre, Kafkaesque odyssey [...]

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Music Monday (on Tuesday): You’re Breaking My Heart -Working Out the Anger at the End of a Bad Relationship

Written by Dr Tara J. Palmatier on August 14, 2012 - 13 Comments
Categories: Abuse, Divorce, Financial Abuse, Healing, Music

It’s Music Monday on Shrink4Men, albeit, it’s Tuesday (busy, busy day yesterday!) You’re Breaking My Heart is by Harry Nilsson, another amazing singer-songwriter, from the Son of Schmilsson album. According to the documentary, Who is Harry Nilsson and Why is Everybody Talkin’ About Him? (available for streaming on Netflix), Nilsson wrote this song when he [...]

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Abuse Tears Families Apart: A Sister Mourns the Loss of Her Brother

Written by Dr Tara J. Palmatier on August 10, 2012 - 25 Comments
Categories: Abuse, Antisocial Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, Domestic Violence, Healing, Histrionic Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Parental Alienation, Personality Disorders

Being in an abusive relationship doesn’t just hurt the target of abuse, it hurts everyone who cares about and loves the target. In my private practice, I find I am increasingly working with family members of men who are grieving the loss, or potential loss, of a beloved son, brother, grandson, etc. These men all [...]

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More Thoughts on FOG, Hoovers and No Contact When Ending a Relationship with a Narcissist, Borderline, Histrionic and/or Sociopath

Written by Dr Tara J. Palmatier on July 16, 2012 - 129 Comments
Categories: Abuse, Antisocial Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, Domestic Violence, Financial Abuse, Healing, Histrionic Personality Disorder, Personality Disorders, Physical Abuse, Professional Victims, Psychological Abuse, Relationship Advice, Relationships, Unhealthy Relationships

Many of my clients often have difficulty after ending their relationships with an abusive and crazy ex. These men and women torture themselves with self-doubt (Am I doing the right thing?), self-recrimination (Why am I so stupid? Why did I put up with her/his behavior for so long? Why did I have kids with that [...]

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