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A View from the Outside: How Healthy Loved Ones See your Abusive Relationship with a High-Conflict and/or Personality Disordered Partner

Written by Micksbabe on February 13, 2012 - 55 Comments
Categories: Abuse, Dating, Divorce, Domestic Violence, Healthy Relationships, High-Conflict, Marriage, Parental Alienation, Personality Disorders, Physical Abuse, Psychological Abuse, Relationship Advice, Relationships

Here’s the latest from CrazyBuster, Micksbabe . . . If you’re in an abusive relationship with a high-conflict and/or personality disordered individual, you’re probably very aware of what your situation looks like from the inside — constant chaos, blame, fighting, projection, and gaslighting, possibly even shame. Have you ever wondered what your situation looks like [...]

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A Different Look at Men’s Violence: How to Slap Your Way to Slavery

Written by Paul Elam on November 21, 2011 - 69 Comments
Categories: Abuse, Accountability, Blame, Domestic Violence, High-Conflict, Physical Abuse, Psychological Abuse, Rage, Relationships, Unhealthy Relationships

The following article is written by Paul Elam of AVoiceforMen and is republished here with his permission. It offers an alternate perspective on “male violence,” and by alternate, I mean a more nuanced and complex understanding of male perpetrated domestic violence beyond, “Man = Abuser; Woman = Innocent Victim.” To see the original post and [...]

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Male Anger and Other Emotions, Part Two

Written by Dr Tara J. Palmatier on November 15, 2011 - 35 Comments
Categories: Abuse, Accountability, Blame, Domestic Violence, Healing, Psychological Abuse, Rage

This is the follow-up article to Male Anger and Other Emotions, Part One and is a modified transcript to the Shrink4Men Radio program, Making Friends with Your Anger. Male Anger Anger is not a bad emotion. It’s just an emotion like any other emotion. Feelings are signals that we’re experiencing something. Anger typically tells us, [...]

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Male Anger and Other Emotions, Part One

Written by Dr Tara J. Palmatier on November 10, 2011 - 26 Comments
Categories: Abuse, Domestic Violence, Healing, Psychological Abuse, Rage

How many times have you heard some woman or man parrot the old chestnut: “Men aren’t good at expressing emotions. Men don’t have feelings.” This is utter nonsense. Nonsense. Men have emotions. They have plenty of emotions — even if they appear numb and shut down — there are still lots of emotions underneath the [...]

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Listen to Shrink4Men Radio Embed: Making Friends with your Anger

Here’s the embed of Shrink4Men Radio discussing Making Friend’s with your Anger with Dr Tara J. Palmatier and her guest Paul Elam of AVoiceforMen. We ran the show over by a half hour to accommodate all the callers. Thank you very much to everyone who called in or listened live and to all of you [...]

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